If you could rank the top things that mothers with babies talk about, it would probably look something like:
How much they weigh
What size they’re wearing
I don’t have any special or amazing sleep secrets. I don’t think my kids are AMAZING sleepers, but they aren’t horrible either. I guess they’re just average? Normal? I don’t know.
But I thought I would share about how we’ve been doing things with Finn so far when it comes to all things sleep!
When he was first born all I wanted to do was hold him and he was perfectly content with that. Sleep mostly looked like:
the solly baby wrap
or my arms
and the rock n play
We started out bed sharing with our Snuggle Me Organic, but when Finn was really small he had some reflux issues and it sounded SO painful and terrible anytime we laid him down flat to sleep after he ate. So we ended up using the Rock N Play for night time sleep (just like we had with Mabel).
But recently, I started feeling like maybe it was time to transition him out of the RNP and back to sleeping on his back.
So we moved him BACK into our bed and the Snuggle Me Organic and he finally started stretching out (instead of every three hours to eat) and sleeping better than he ever had.
At that point, I started thinking it might be time to move him to his own room. This was significantly earlier than with the girls (Abigail, 5 months. Mabel, 7 months) but he just seemed to be ready to go.
I tried out a few naps (his first naps not in the wrap or downstairs in the RNP with us) in his crib and Snuggle Me and they went incredibly well. So that made me feel confident in moving him to night time sleep there as well.
Of course, that first night I was a complete nervous wreck and had to go check on him way too many times. But he did amazing that first night!
So now his schedule looks something like this in a day:
As soon as he wakes up I nurse him, he is awake/playing for an hour, then he goes down for a nap(in his crib now- he no longer wants to be held). Repeat all day until the 7 o’clock hour. Then he is nursed and put down for bedtime. This is the time he gives me his biggest stretch- he will go from 7-midnight or so. Then he usually nurses one more time before he gets up for the day around 7am. (sometimes he will nurse at like 1 and 5 and then wake up a little bit later, closer to 8. It can vary!)
I can never remember what people claim as “sleeping through the night”, I think it’s kind of one of those arbitrary things where everyone has their own definition- but I’m really happy with how he is doing right now! It will be really, really nice when he finally drops that midnight/1am feeding and I get a really long stretch of sleep for myself, but I can’t complain.
His refluxy type stuff seems to be much better now that he is a little bigger and as long as I get a burp out of him before I lay him down, he really goes right back to sleep and is such a sweet, little baby.
The next step will be transitioning him out of the Snuggle Me, but I’m not rushing that one! I think we’ll keep things how they are for a bit longer before changing anything up again.
I think one of the most significant differences this third time around is my perspective- I remember I would get SO mad and frustrated anytime that Abigail woke up in the middle of the night. I was just impatiently waiting for her to FINALLY “sleep through the night” and anytime that it didn’t happen, I felt defeated and angry. Fortunately, I lost a lot of those feelings with Mabel and was able to just enjoy her so much more- but this time around is even greater.
I guess the whole operating on less sleep thing is one aspect of motherhood I have finally come to accept and I don’t begrudge it like I used to. I know in no time at all he will be sleeping from 7-7 (wait, how is he already three months old?) and I will feel more rested again. But, to be honest, I love these tiny baby days- less sleep included. I really, really do. I’m so thankful that I’ve grown beyond where I was the first time around! (but also for vanilla lattes)